Fancy something new? Anal sex offers for women and men equally stimulating feelings and provides in most cases for even more intense orgasms. The region around the anus has many nerve endings, which can provide intensive stimulation when touched. You don’t know if you like it yet? Then find out.
The first time anal sex
Depending on their preference, everyone can enjoy anal sex as an active or passive partner, or both – regardless of sex. This is true for heterosexual as well as lesbian and gay couples. The most important thing in anal sex is to take your time. This is especially true when it is the first time. Talk to your partner beforehand about the topic and how your ideas look like. Is anal sex an option for both of you? Maybe one of you already has some experience? All the better! Speak plainly and thus eliminate all insecurities from the world.
Don’t hold back your doubts and fears in any case. A relaxed approach to the matter also makes the anal sex in the end much more relaxed. There is hardly a sexual practice that is as charged as anal intercourse – in the beginning it therefore makes sense to deal with the few myths that exist around the subject. We have compiled the most frequent (half-) and untruths for you in the following – and compared them with reality.
Myths about anal sex: We have to talk!
There are so many prejudices, rumors and half-wahs about anal sex and certainly you have heard one or the other “horror story” – from unpleasant smells to medical emergencies. We clear up some nonsensical myths about anal intercourse and explain how it really is.
Myth #1: Anal sex hurts
Truth: Anal sex only hurts when you are ruthless and unprepared. If you are in the right mood, relaxed, carefully stretched with a finger or an anal toy and use enough lubricant, it will not hurt, it will do you good. Attention: Spit is not a lubricant!
Myth #2: Anal sex is dirty
- Truth: In the rectum there is excrement only immediately before the bowel movement. If you don’t feel the need to go to the toilet, anal sex is hygienically harmless.
- A shower before anal intercourse is advisable and if you really want to be safe, you can clean your bowels with an anal shower.
- However, it can always happen that despite cleaning excrement during anal sex is present. If you notice this, it is best to interrupt to clean yourself again or continue with another sexual practice this time.
- Important: Intestinal bacteria can cause vaginal infections. Please never go directly from anal to vaginal intercourse!
Myth #3: Condoms are not necessary
Truth: Contraception with a condom is important! Although the risk of an unwanted pregnancy during anal intercourse is significantly lower, the risk of infection with a sexually transmitted disease such as HIV is all the greater due to the more rapid development of micro-fissures.
Myth #4: The anus is wearing out
Truth: The sphincter is a very strong muscle of our body. Although it gets used to pressure and stretching more easily during regular anal intercourse, it can relax more quickly, “wear out” and lose its function, but it will not lose its function – injuries excepted. By the way, this also applies to the vagina.
Myth #5: Anal sex is for gays only
One of the great advantages of anal sex is that people of all sexes and orientations can enjoy it, not just gays. Hetero men still often associate anal sex with the man assuming the role of a woman who is otherwise penetrated by anal or the role of a gay man. Thus men also see themselves in danger of being labelled as gay or feminine and no longer as “real men”. However, gays were not born with special nerves intended for anal play.
Every man has the same nerve tracts in the anus and a prostate that can be stimulated by anal penetration. There are many heterosexual men who have discovered the pleasure of anal stimulation, and there are many gay men who have tried it and decided that it is not for them. It’s purely a matter of taste and not a question of sex and sexual orientation that should keep someone from enjoying anal sex.
#Myth 6: Women don’t like anal sex
Social norms and expectations are constantly changing and evolving. Sexual stigma and what we perceive as an acceptable and healthy part of our intima are things that can fortunately be rewritten.
So is the assumption that women don’t like anal sex and only do it because men want it from them and they want to fulfill this “fantasy”.
What is problematic about this view? This sexual structure sees men in the dominant role in which they force women to engage in activities in the bedroom.
The idea that women do not enjoy anal sex discourages them and denies them the ability to act sexually and sexual desires such as anal sex. Of course, this can also be perceived as stimulating and attractive by women and has nothing to do with the above-mentioned submission.
Fortunately, the actual image of what people do in their bedroom differs from this general narrative. It may not be talked about so openly in society, but anal sex is part of a common sexual practice that both partners enjoy.
No one has to feel compelled to do so. If you feel like it, do it – if not, then not. Anal sex can also be an alternative to vaginal sex, which can be impossible and uncomfortable due to the period or during a fungal infection. Whether she or he thinks anal sex is good, each person must find out for himself.
Myth 7: There is an anal orgasm
There is no pure anal orgasm. However, since the anus and sexual organs are close to each other, you can get a second hand orgasm by stimulating the sensitive nerve endings of the anus and the genitals simultaneously. Many people perceive this stimulation as anal orgasm.
Everyone has numerous nerve endings on the anus that can be stimulated by touch, which many people find tingly and, together with masturbation or vaginal penetration, enhances the orgasm. In addition, there are also gender-specific characteristics that influence an “anal orgasm”.
The anal orgasm in men: The prostate is the size of a chestnut and lies inside the anus on the intestinal wall behind the penis and testicles. It is a gland that secretes a secretion that mixes with the sperm during ejaculation to make them more mobile. However, the small knob can also trigger intense feelings in men. Five to seven centimetres in the anus a round bulge can be felt. You can massage it with your fingertip – with light pressure and circular movements. The middle finger is best suited for this as it can penetrate deepest into the anus. If penis and glans are additionally stimulated, an “anal orgasm” is quite realistic.
The feeling of orgasm with anal penetration is often described by men as more intense and different. Further information on prostate massage can be found here.
The anal orgasm in women: Women have no prostate, so it cannot be stimulated during anal sex either. But they have the clitoris. This includes not only the externally visible clitoris glans, but also the inner clitoris thigh and the vaginal opening, which have many nerve endings. There are also muscles in the anus that are connected to this area. Thus, anal stimulation can transfer stimuli to the entire region, i.e. the clitoris is indirectly stimulated. If you also pamper the clitoris or the vagina, “anal orgasm” is even easier for them.